Strategic Intercession

19 - The Curse Trap: Praying for Enemies and Responding to Opposition

Melanie Boudreau Episode 19

When violence shakes nations and opposition rises against believers, the instinct for retaliation—even in prayer—can lead intercessors into a dangerous trap. This episode reveals how prayers intended as "righteous judgment" can actually empower darkness, explores the radical difference between Old Testament imprecatory psalms and New Testament prayer through Christ, and provides seven strategic approaches for praying that align with God's heart for transformation rather than destruction. The distinction between crisis intercession and strategic intercession becomes critical for those who want their prayers to defeat darkness rather than feed it.



Key Topics Covered

  • The danger of weaponizing prayer and how it mirrors witchcraft
  • Understanding imprecatory psalms through the lens of Christ
  • Reconciling Old Testament justice prayers with New Testament blessing
  • How God's own heart grieves over the wicked (Isaiah 15-16)
  • Identifying the real enemy: spiritual powers vs. flesh and blood
  • Breaking free from zero-sum thinking in Kingdom perspective
  • The difference between crisis intercession and strategic intercession
  • Robbie Dawkins' "revenge" model: souls for the Kingdom at murder sites
  • Joseph and Stephen as models of strategic intercession
  • Seven powerful strategies for praying for enemies
  • Personal transformation through obedient blessing of persecutors
  • Setting boundaries while maintaining blessing posture



Scriptural Foundations

  • Romans 12:14 - Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse
  • Matthew 5:44 - Love your enemies, pray for those who persecute you
  • Ephesians 6:12 - Wrestling against principalities and powers, not flesh and blood
  • Psalm 37 - Do not fret because of evil, trust in the Lord
  • Ezekiel 9 - God marks those who grieve over unrighteousness
  • Ezekiel 33:11 - God takes no pleasure in the death of the wicked
  • Isaiah 15-16 - God's heart weeping over judgment on Moab
  • Proverbs 24 - Warning against rejoicing when enemies fall
  • Acts 7 - Stephen's prayer of forgiveness while being stoned
  • Genesis 50 - Joseph's declaration "You meant it for evil, but God meant it for good"



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00:00 Emcee:
Welcome to the Strategic Intercession Podcast, where we share powerful prayer techniques, inspiring stories, and tools to help you lead with wisdom and confidence. Hosted by Melanie Boudreau, a seasoned leader in focused prayer. Whether you're leading in church, government, or business shaping your industry, this podcast is for you. Now, here's your host, Melanie Boudreau.

00:30 Melanie Boudreau:
Today we're tackling a weighty, urgent theme: How do we pray for our enemies, our competitors, and those who oppose us?

00:41 Melanie Boudreau:
The Spirit pressed this on my heart weeks ago, and each outbreak of violence reveals how critically intercessors must understand this. Our prayers can either defeat darkness or feed it. We're living in a sobering moment. Many of us are feeling grief, confusion, even anger over what we've recently witnessed in our nation. And if you're listening from another part of the world, I know your nation may be facing its own kinds of violence, injustice, and hostility.

01:20 Melanie Boudreau:
Wherever we live, the question is the same. How do followers of Jesus respond when opposition rises against us? And how do we pray in a way that honors Christ? The temptation is strong to retaliate in words and action or even in prayer. But the call of Jesus is radically different.

01:46 Melanie Boudreau:
Love your enemies. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who persecute you. Paul echoes, do not repay evil with evil. We can grieve and bring our anger to God, but we do not weaponize prayer to curse people.

02:08 Melanie Boudreau:
That veers into manipulation, and manipulation in the Spirit is the essence of witchcraft. Whenever prayer shifts from seeking God's will to trying to enforce our own will on others, we're stepping into that same dark spirit. Loving our enemies isn't easy. It goes against every instinct of the flesh. But it's where true spiritual authority is found.

02:41 Melanie Boudreau:
Today we're going to look at how we pray for enemies. Not with cursing, not with bitterness, but with a Christ-centered intercession that aligns us with God's heart and opens the door for His justice, His provision, and His redemption to break in. So let's start by addressing something that often comes up when we talk about praying for enemies. Those difficult Psalms where it seems like the writers are calling down curses.

03:19 Melanie Boudreau:
For many of us, our first instinct is honest anger. That's not surprising. God can handle our honesty, real emotions, and real pain. Even the Bible gives voice to raw, emotional prayers, what theologians call the imprecatory Psalms. That word imprecatory simply means calling down a curse.

03:46 Melanie Boudreau:
There are passages in Psalms where David and others cry out to God, Break the teeth of the wicked, or May their children be fatherless. Those are raw, gut-level prayers. They came out of anguish, betrayal, and warfare. And here's the thing. We can relate to them.

04:10 Melanie Boudreau:
When someone slanders us, oppresses us, or harms us, there's something in us that wants to pray, Lord, get 'em. But here's where we need discernment. These Psalms were never meant to be a model for us to curse people in prayer. In fact, in some parts of the world today, it's not uncommon even among Christians, to pray what amounts to a curse, often with the Psalms as justification. Now, I want to be empathetic here.

04:45 Melanie Boudreau:
I understand how that happens. Those Psalms are in our Bible and they give voice to real pain. But when we pray them against flesh and blood, we cross into something that looks more like witchcraft. Than intercession. Jesus never gave us permission to curse people.

05:07 Melanie Boudreau:
He taught us to bless, to forgive, and to trust God's justice. So the challenge is this: Can we bring the pain and anger to God honestly, but then let Him reshape it into prayer that aligns with His heart? The practice of cursing only makes sense when you're reading the Psalms without the lens of Jesus. But through the cross, Jesus transforms how we pray those words. Romans 12:14, Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.

05:52 Melanie Boudreau:
So how do we reconcile these Old Testament prayers of anguish with the New Testament called to bless. Let me show you how they actually work together.

06:06 Melanie Boudreau:
What was once directed at human enemies, we now recognize as a cry for God's justice against the powers of darkness, the demonic forces behind hatred, violence, and deception. The imprecatory psalms gives us language for lament, but they must be reframed through Christ so we don't fall into the trap of self-fueled spiritual retaliation. The Psalms teach us honesty and a hunger for justice. The New Testament teaches us to release judgment to God and to intercede for repentance. Together they model integrity in intercession.

06:51 Melanie Boudreau:
We cry out for justice without taking vengeance. We pray for transformation without denying evil. Psalm 37 gives us this consistent perspective. Do not fret because of those who are evil. Trust in the Lord and do good.

07:13 Melanie Boudreau:
Ezekiel chapter 9 shows us God marks those who grieve over unrighteousness in their nation. God isn't asking us to deny our pain. He asked us to bring it before him with tears, not curses. And Ezekiel, chapter 33, verse 11 reminds us, God takes no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but that they turn and live. Now, if our own daughter or son becomes deceived, turning their backs on righteousness, our hearts break.

07:52 Melanie Boudreau:
We grieve before the Lord. We know that apart from God, their lives won't showcase his goodness and glory, nor will they experience the richness of God's abundance reserved for them. We were made in God's image. This attitude towards our own beloveds reflects the heart of God toward every man and woman created by God. Indeed, in Isaiah chapters 15 through 16, while pronouncing judgment on Moab, God through Isaiah uses phrases like, My heart weeps.

08:33 Melanie Boudreau:
My tears will flow. My heart's cry is like a lament on a harp. And I'm filled with anguish. Prophets often spoke in ways where their own heart and God's heart overlapped. The Spirit filled them, and their emotions could become vessels to reveal God's compassion and grief.

09:02 Melanie Boudreau:
The character of God doesn't change from one covenant to the next. God is love.

09:10 Melanie Boudreau:
When we pray strategically, our own heart and God's heart will also overlap. When we allow the Spirit to fill us, our own emotions also become vessels to reveal God's compassion and grief. Divine love shifts the way we pray. Away from judgment and toward grieving. Unrighteousness causes suffering, whether in political leadership, the business world, within ministries, educational systems, or even in our own families.

09:52 Melanie Boudreau:
But here's the key question we need to ask ourselves: who are our enemies? Really?

10:04 Melanie Boudreau:
When someone betrays us, blocks our ministry, steals a deal, or mocks our faith, it feels very personal. And politically, the duplicity and corruption we see can feel unbearable. But Paul reframes the whole battlefield in Ephesians chapter 6 verse 12. We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers. Yes, in the Old Testament Israel fought literal nations.

10:37 Melanie Boudreau:
But in Christ, the real enemy is the demonic realm that enslaves people. That means the one who slanders you is not your ultimate enemy, the spirit animating that hostility is the system of evil, the powers of darkness. That's the battlefield. And when we realize this, our prayers shift. We stop trying to weaponize Scripture against human beings and we start wielding prayer against the demonic strategies at work as we usher in the provision promises, and kingdom of God.

11:22 Melanie Boudreau:
Invoke the river of life. Invoke love. Invoke the peace of heaven. Through your prayers and interventions, act in the opposite spirit as the kingdom of darkness. Let me share an encouraging story that really shows this principle in action.

11:46 Melanie Boudreau:
I'm reminded of Robbie Dawkins, the author of Identity Thief, exposing Satan's plan to steal your purpose, passion and power. He recounted his experiences pastoring in Aurora, Illinois, a city plagued by gang violence and one of the highest murder rates in the US at the time. Robbie and his family moved there to plant a church in a bullet riddled building. Right in the heart of the most dangerous neighborhood. Despite warnings from local police that it was essentially a death sentence, he set up shop in the midst of enemies.

12:26 Melanie Boudreau:
The story centers on a series of murders tied to gang activities. In response to each killing, Robbie, his family, and church members would immediately go to pray at the murder site. They refused to leave until leading exactly three people to accept Christ before departing. Now, Ravi frames this deliberate outreach as their form of revenge against the violence and spiritual darkness, not retaliation through harm, but by stealing back souls for the kingdom of God, countering each act of death with eternal life. Instead of cursing, they turned the tragedy into an opportunity for salvation.

13:12 Melanie Boudreau:
That strategic intercession in action, turning the enemy's attack into a platform for advancing God's purposes. Add to Robbie's modeling, Christian author Graham Cooke's divinely sourced wisdom: Every challenge is an opportunity for Jesus to be something for you that He couldn't be in any other circumstance. Graham encourages asking God questions like, what do you want to be for me in this situation that you could not be at any other time? To reframe difficulties as divine opportunities. Even in the midst of opposition, Christ reveals new dimensions of His sufficiency.

13:58 Melanie Boudreau:
Now, I want to challenge a mindset that often creeps into how we think about competition and opposition.

14:09 Melanie Boudreau:
Another idea I want to expand is what I call zero-sum thinking. That's the mindset that says, if you win, I lose. If you succeed, it comes at my expense. We see it in politics, in business, and even in ministry competition. But the kingdom of God doesn't work that way.

14:35 Melanie Boudreau:
God's resources are infinite. His blessings multiply rather than diminish. He can raise up multiple ministries, multiple businesses, multiple leaders, all flourishing without canceling one another out. So when we pray for our competitors, or even our enemies, we're refusing zero-sum thinking. We're declaring, Lord, there's enough of youf goodness, enough of youf provision, enough of youf Spirit to go around.

15:10 Melanie Boudreau:
This is a powerful act of spiritual warfare because zero-sum thinking breeds jealousy, rivalry, and suspicion. But blessing prayers break that cycle.

15:25 Melanie Boudreau:
So how do we pray? I want to introduce a distinction between There are two kinds of intercession: crisis intercession and strategic intercession. Crisis intercession is when we look back at what has been done. We pray things like, Lord, look at the injustice. Look.

15:49 Melanie Boudreau:
Look at what they've done to us. Look at how much it hurts. It's real. It's honest. And sometimes it's the only prayer we can manage when we're reeling from shock.

16:02 Melanie Boudreau:
And that's legitimate. God hears those prayers. But if we stop there, we can get stuck in the past, rehearsing the pain instead of moving forward, wielding the authority Jesus entrusted to us to make us world changers through prayer and faith-fueled action. Strategic intercession looks It asks, Father, what's your heart for this situation?

16:31 Melanie Boudreau:
What provision do you want to release? How do you want to turn this for your glory? How does the victory of Jesus need to be revealed right here, right now, instead of getting trapped in what was done to us? We align with what God wants to do through us.

16:55 Melanie Boudreau:
Joseph is a great example. Betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, wronged in countless ways. But when he finally faced his brothers again, he said, you, meant this for evil, but God meant it for good. Now that's strategic intercession. It acknowledges the pain, but it shifts the focus toward God's redemptive plan.

17:24 Melanie Boudreau:
Think about Stephen in the book of Acts, the first martyr of the church. As he was being stoned to death, his prayer wasn't, God, bring fire on these men. His prayer was, Lord, do not hold this sin against them. That prayer opened the door for Saul, the murderous Pharisee holding the coats of the executioners, to become Paul, the apostle who would carry the gospel across the Roman world. That's strategic intercession.

18:01 Melanie Boudreau:
So here are some practical strategies for praying for enemies. First, Start with heart posture. Grieve. Don't gloat. Proverbs 24 warns us not to rejoice when our enemy falls, or God may turn His wrath away.

18:21 Melanie Boudreau:
When tragedy strikes, we allow ourselves to lament before God, but we resist the temptation to cheer over anyone's downfall. Second, pray from God's heart, not just our pain. God reveals His heart. He longs for repentance and salvation. Third, act in the opposite spirit.

18:47 Melanie Boudreau:
Resist hate with love. Speak life where others speak death, whether on your knees, in your personal network, or on social media. Fourth, recognize the true enemy. People aren't our ultimate enemies. Satan and the powers of darkness are.

19:09 Melanie Boudreau:
This reframes prayer. Father, break the deception over their minds, deliver them from bondage to the evil one. That way, we target the spiritual chains without cursing the person. Fifth, bless instead of curse. Refuse zero-sum thinking.

19:32 Melanie Boudreau:
God's abundance is enough for all. Out loud, with intentionality, pray God's blessing over those who oppose you, whether that's a competitor at work, a political figure, or a personal enemy. Tap into God's heart for these intercessory targets. Sixth, ask for transformation, not destruction. Remember, Saul the murderous persecutor became Paul the apostle because someone prayed.

20:09 Melanie Boudreau:
Finally, set boundaries with wisdom. To love and bless doesn't mean to be naive. You can pray a blessing over someone while still walking in discernment. Protecting yourself and refusing to enable harm. Sometimes obedience to God looks like creating distance.

20:30 Melanie Boudreau:
Then if and when you hold that person before the Lord in prayer, do it in a way that reflects the heart of Jesus.

20:40 Melanie Boudreau:
Using these prayer strategies, I discovered quite by accident God's power to change my own heart toward those who insult me persecute me, or falsely say all kinds of evil against me. When I consistently came alongside Jesus to hear his heart and to pray what he showed me, my own hate melted away. Praying for those I disdained actually became a spiritual strategy to address judgment and hatred I carried in my own heart. It took an entire year of praying regularly for one enemy until I fully lost my animosity. We walk in obedience to Jesus, loving our enemies, blessing those who curse us, and praying for those who persecute us.

21:29 Melanie Boudreau:
We find ourselves transformed. Bonus.

21:36 Melanie Boudreau:
Friends, this is what intercessory integrity looks like. We don't deny our emotions. We don't pretend that opposition isn't painful. But we also don't weaponize prayer to curse. We refuse to twist prayer into a weapon of hate.

21:55 Melanie Boudreau:
Instead, we align ourselves with the heart of God. We pray forward into His provision, His love, His plan, His justice, and His redemption. We bless, we forgive, and we trust God to be the judge who makes all things right. We grieve over the wicked. We bless those who persecute us.

22:22 Melanie Boudreau:
And we resist the demonic forces at work behind human hostility. We pray not for destruction, but for transformation. And we trust God, the only righteous judge. To balance mercy and justice. This is how we overcome evil with good.

22:46 Melanie Boudreau:
This is how we pray for our enemies and the power of Christ.

22:56 Emcee:
Thank you for listening to the Strategic Intercession Podcast. We hope you found today's episode inspiring and helpful. Don't forget to subscribe, share this podcast and visit strategicintercession.com for more resources. We're grateful to have you as part of our community. Until next time, blessings.

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